I’m also 39 years old with a 4 year old son. I’m also a guy who lost his business in the recession through partial fault of my own but mainly through the economic downturn. Also I have always loved and been there for my son and could say he saved me when I’ve gotten down in the last few years.

Written by Ryan Jakovljevic Ryan is a counsellor and couples therapist with nearly 10 years of experience working with people to resolve relationship issues in a practical and effective way.

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. Dating a man with no money, job, car I have been single for the past five years and have settled into single parenthood quite happily. Apart from a brief wobble about things last year I feel quite happy not to bother in future with relationships. I am in my forties and feel its quite okay to say that for now a relationship is not what I wanted or needed. However, last year during my brief wobble I exchanged emails with a widower in his fifties who seemed nice and we got on great by email but it fizzled out and tbh I didn’t think more about it.

About six weeks ago I got an email from him just asking how I was and so I replied and we have been happily chatting ever since via email. It has progressed to an arranged meeting for lunch although I have said its not a great time for me at the moment to embark in a relationship. He seems really really nice though and if I am honest there is a small part of me which thinks a relationship might be nice.