They don’t call the very early stages of a relationship “the honeymoon period” for nothing. While it’s not always sunshine and rainbows, those first few weeks or months can be idealized because very possibly, you and your partner have yet to see each other’s stripped-down selves that can prove whether or not you’re fit to make it through the long haul.

Still, as lighthearted as that time may be, the beginning period of a relationship is a time to take note of potential dating deal breakers that can be easy to miss when you’re blissed out on romance.

Dating Deal Breakers That Drive Men Away: 12 Relationship Killers That Ruin Your Long-Term Potential with High-Quality Men – Kindle edition by Bryans, Bruce.

What makes your eyes light up? What gets you hoping that this person might be interested in you, too? Many of you may suspect that unattractiveness is a common dealbreaker. And it only came in at 7 for short-term relationships. Also, other qualities related to appearance do tend to show up in many such studies. What else do people want to stay away from? And then there are differences in interests and preferences, such as watching TV or playing video games too much, talking too much or being too quiet, or even being too athletic or not athletic enough.

Negative character or personality traits, including laziness, neediness, low self-confidence, and being racist or bigoted also showed up as dealbreakers for many. In fact, in one study, this was the most commonly listed dealbreaker for a long-term relationship. No matter how good-looking, smart, funny, hard-working, or physically fit that potential partner might be, if he or she is abusive towards you in any way, or consistently cannot control his or her anger, look elsewhere.