Trying to meet the right person is hard enough. But what if you are also trying to lose weight when you hit the dating scene? If you are overweight, or even if you are not at your ideal weight, you may feel more vulnerable in the singles market. Whether you’re dating online or trying to meet your match the old-fashioned way, there are a few things to know.

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Dating as a polyamorous woman brings with it a lifetime’s worth of misconceptions and jealousies. Add a few extra layers of fat to that experience, and things can get depressing real fast. As a non-single, fat, polyamorous woman, I can’t tell you how often I’ve been questioned about my confidence, self-worth, who I am, and why I’m into what I’m into. And I’m not the only one who feels this way. For anyone who’s going to date a fat woman at some point in their life, here are some tips for not ruining your chances to get with all this.

If literally the only reason you are interested in me is because I’m fat, you might want to take a step back and get to know a bit about me first. I don’t mind if you tend to date fat girls, or really even if you get some specific pleasure from being with a fat woman — but I don’t need that to be the first thing you tell me about yourself. Guys tend to do this in a reassuring way, I think.

I don’t need to be reassured. Or maybe it’s meant to suggest some kink; like to let me know that he wants to feed me cakes and watch me weigh myself? Hey: I don’t own a scale. If you care more about my weight than I do, we’re going to have a problem. This comes from guys who don’t necessarily have a problem with my weight — they just have a problem with fat people.